okay well i know my hubby wants to save money right now that he is deployed… well we were planning on saving to buy a house and I was talking to him on the phone last night and now he is saying that we are going to use the money we have saved up so he wont have to work for about 2 years! Okay I know he wants to go back to school but we have two kids! I am currently going to school for medical assisting but come on Im not going to make too much money! And about a month ago I told him I was considering joining the air force ( I WAS NOT 100% SURE!!) and now he is pressuring me to do it! Not only that he limits me with money really bad! he gives me 1800.00 a month okay ive gonna tell you what i pay for each month ok: truck 400, rent 450, phone/ internet/cable 100, electricity and water 100, auto insurance 90, his credit card 80, grocieries 150, and i use 400 of gas a month ( i drive too much back and forth from the babysitters to school to back home during the week. and what ever is left over is for diapers for both my kids. I tell him that I need more money so i can buy the kids clothes or get an oil change and says he’ll give it to me but he’s going to take it out of my next month! He also gets mad cause I hardly send him care packages, but its not like I dont want to cause I do its just that I dont even have enough money to do it! I cant even take my son to McDonalds cause I wont hear the end of it about how I dont need to be eating out and all that! And I cant get a job because I go to school from 12-5 so there is no way… He is always telling me how I control him, but I dont see how he thinks that I control him? and another thing is that he gets an allotment to his own bank acct and he spends money like crazy like the first month he was over there he bought a $1000 laptop! and I couldnt buy me a pair of scrubs for school!!! then a few months ago he wanted a fridge for his room over there, that is something he doesnt need. And he doesnt even want to pay off my credit cards. I owe about 6,000 on them and thats because he made me stop paying them when he went active army ( he told me to quit my job and that I didnt have to work because i was pregnant and he wanted me to stay home and raise my kids) and he has paid a few of his… I dont know what to do anymore… I cant even go out to eat with my friends or anything! what should I do!
okay about the airforce it was just a thought! and no im not thinking of doing it WHILE HE WAS STILL IN!! Im going to wait till he gets out early next yr. But its still not a for sure thing…
